Couples can often resolve many disagreements about co-parenting without a significant legal battle. Cooperation by both parents will greatly diminish many adverse effects of divorce. Sometimes remarriage one of the parents creates further tension. It is essential to keep in mind that most stepparents are not evil. As long as you can communicate honestly and respectfully with your ex-spouse, it is even possible to modify the terms of your co-parenting arrangement without hiring a lawyer. Having a non-attorney legal document assistant prepare your family law documents is an affordable way to accomplish pre and post-divorce legal formalities.
How to Protect Your Children from the Worst Effects of Divorce
Getting divorced means that you have very little control over what your ex-spouse says and does. Fortunately, you do have control over what you do. In other words, acting in your children’s best interests and giving them a stable environment can make their lives during and after the divorce much less stressful. These are some examples of how your actions can lessen the stress and effects of divorce on your children.
If there is domestic violence in your household, move out immediately, and get a protective order against your ex. The family courts make it a priority to protect children from family violence. The other details, such as supervised visits with your ex, if applicable, will work themselves out later.
If your current parenting plan is no longer sustainable, formally modify the parenting plan instead of just complaining about it or blaming your ex. For example, you might want to change the parenting plan because you have to move for work, or because your children have a more demanding school schedule than before the divorce.
If possible, agree with your spouse about the terms of your divorce before you file for divorce. You might need a marriage counselor or mediator to help you do this. Uncontested divorces are much less expensive and do not require you to hire a lawyer.
Be genuinely happy for your children if they have a good relationship with your ex-spouse and enjoy spending time with him or her. It does not mean they love you any less or do not also enjoy spending time with you.
Focus on respect instead of love. The effects of divorce on children can bubble up feelings of anger and resentment. Do not expect your children to like your new partner or their new stepsiblings. Do insist that they treat them with respect, and be specific (and realistic) about your expectations.
A People’s Choice Makes Divorce and Co-Parenting Less Stressful
Divorce is never easy, but it does not have to be overwhelming. The good news is that parents can lessen the effects of divorce on your family with a little help. Many divorced parents need to hire a lawyer, but you do not need to pay a lawyer for every single step of the divorce and co-parenting process. When you just need to file documents, you only need a registered legal document assistant to prepare them. Contact A People’s Choice to have a registered legal document assistant professionally prepare court documents for your family law case. Call us today at 800-747-2780.
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